Humans have range of
recognizable emotions - some are good and some are bad; but none of which can
be effectively controlled by the owner. I would think, this may play major role
in defining the future of human evolution. Diseases may hinder humans' path, but
they will overcome this with their intelligence. But to control your emotions
you have to look deep inside your soul - and all by yourself; collective
intelligence probably can not guide an individual here. And that is the
problem.
I had written about ego sometime back - I, not the Ego . Today, I would like to
look at declining path of this Ego. As I had mentioned in my earlier post, ego
by itself is not bad. It helps define you. When you define yourself
unrealistically (that is what I called bad-ego)
that is the starting point of Arrogance and end of ego's territory.
Ego
= I, self
Arrogance
= Having or revealing an exaggerated sense of
one's own importance or abilities.
Anger
= feeling of displeasure and belligerence aroused by a wrong
Arrogance, in my
opinion, is something that you cultivate,
subconsciously - not by strict sense of happenstance. Not like ego - which is
by nature or happens/exists by birth. Ego is, however, influenced by external
enablers over the life time. These influences seed and water arrogance - like
culture, power, habitat, economy - any
of these can act as enablers of arrogance. Arrogance keeps you in a bubble and
constricts you from experiencing anything outside that bubble. This makes you
grow more complacence and fuels your arrogance further.
At this point any
small poke from outside, rocks your bubble with greater magnitude - greater the
bubble, higher the magnitude. This in turn triggers Anger - physical
manifestation resulting from {arrogance + catalyst}. I would interpret anger as
a state of helplessness;
for, you really can not control the pokes coming from outside your bubble.
Body's way of dispersing this anger is through crying, shouting, physically
harming self/others etc.
So, we start walking
backwards now - if I want to control my anger, I have to deflate my arrogance.
To deflate, means there already exists a bubble. Any attempt to deflate it from
outside is nothing but the "poke" - which rocks arrogance further.
Only way, for me to deflate this bubble of arrogance is by bursting out of it.
And how do I do it ? Reach back into my ego (one step above arrogance) - for,
ego knows to exist but not destroy itself. Ego lies in our subconscious mind;
to reach in here we need to become more self-aware. Now comes the tough part of
becoming self-aware !
I believe meditation
leads me there. I don't know any other means. If you find out please do share
it with me :-)
